How to Know When You're Seeking Toxic Validation

Hey friend! Welcome back. Today, we're diving into a topic close to home for many of us—validation, and how our search for it can sometimes become toxic.

I've gone through some big changes lately, going back to college after a decade away and it’s been a ride juggling schedules and rediscovering a classroom environment. The shift brought about some new perspectives on how I seek validation, and I wanted to share my thoughts with you.

In this episode, we talk about what happens when validation-seeking becomes unhealthy. It’s about understanding that while we need others to affirm our reality, the lion's share of emotional regulation rests within us. And I share some of my personal journey overcoming anxiety, which was a big driver of my own toxic validation seeking behavior. 

I also talk about the importance of setting boundaries, not as a means to control others, but as a way to guide our own actions and maintain our emotional well-being. What I learned in therapy was that boundaries are like a velvet rope—not a fence—showing us the paths we choose not to take.

Join me as we explore healthy validation and build relationships that thrive through mutual understanding and support.

 

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